Mai pen rai, which translates to ‘never mind’, is a common phrase that Thais live by. It is mostly used during frustrating moments, and proves their laidback mindset. These three simple words enable Thai people to keep on smiling through everything they do. Although Thais have an easy going approach to life, they still have value systems regarding dress, social behavior, religion, sexuality, and authority figures. These forms of etiquette tend to be more conservative to your average Westerner and should be respected. A good understanding of the following customs will prevent you from encountering any problems.
Greeting
The wai is a traditional form of greeting and sign of respect. Unlike the typical handshake, it entails pressing your palms together at chest or nose level and bowing slightly. Normally the younger of the two greeters will bow first. The wai can be used to express hello, goodbye, and thank you. Sawadee is the word used to greet hello.
Body Language
Based on Buddhist beliefs, the head is the most sacred part of the human body, while the feet are the least sacred. Therefore, touching someone’s head is highly offensive, as is pointing feet at someone. Most Thais sit on the floor on their feet tucked under their bodies. Touching people in general is considered too intimate so it is best to keep your hands to yourself.
Dress
Revealing clothes are frowned upon in Thailand. Shorts, low cut shirts, and skimpy bathing suits are all considered offensive, whether worn by a man or woman. It is important to dress modestly, especially when visiting temples. In regards to shoes, it is custom to remove one’s shoes before entering a home or temple.
Religion
Buddhism is practiced by 95% of Thailand’s population. The laws of religion provide freedom and the government respects this to a certain degree. They refuse to recognize any completely new religious groups, which must operate unregistered and freely. Buddhism is such a stronghold to the country that is hard not to notice with the vast amount of Buddha images and temples. Thais worship Buddha images for protection. It is considered highly superstitious and a disruption of harmonious balance if anyone touches a display so avoid this at all costs. Most rules of Thai etiquette are based on their Buddhist religion.
Sexuality
Thailand is one GLBT friendly place compared to most Western countries. Sexuality and preference come without shame. Many Thais engage in sex with both men and women, without worrying about labels. Transexuals, also known as ladyboys or krathoeys stand out, but blend into mainstream society. Drag shows are common entertainment in most gay bars. Nightlife and sex are readily available for those looking for it, straight or not. This openness must be closed though as public displays of affection are forbidden, surprisingly.
Hierarchy
There is a great deal of respect for hierarchy in Thailand as everyone has a place in society. To name a few, respect must be shown to Monks, Royalty, Government Officials, Doctors, Teacher, Parents, and Elders. Speaking of Monks, they are forbidden to have any physical contact with women. Women must respect this rule by avoiding any accidents when passing Monks. It can be common for a Thai to ask many questions to find their hierarchy with a person, especially pertaining to career and family. The highest respect goes to the beloved King of Thailand. His photos are everywhere you turn and when his anthem is played, you must stand up tall. It is actually illegal to criticize him in any way from speaking negatively to destroying Thai currency with his photo. Be careful not to disobey since offenses are punishable.
